Are kids like a "marriage"? Would less ppl have kids if parents were more honest?

My, my. I must say that I kinda agree with you. I know so many couples that should never have had children. Mostly the ones that couldn't control their hormones in their younger years. It is refreshing to know that at least you are honest with your intentions. It really isn't necessary to have a child to complete your life or make you happy. If anything it is a deterrent to happiness. Having a child as you said prevents you from doing the things that you want to do--travel etc. Anyway I think it is religious motivated to have children anyway. Your life is not your own any more because you are responsible for another person or persons. not only yourself. No matter how you teach your kids they never seem to get out from under your wings. There is always something that they need help with. Money, watch "their" kids co-signing for some thing or another. It sure would be great if we were like the birds---push-em out of the nest and let them fly on their own & fend for themselves. I would have a small fortune today if I didn't have to support the kids after their left the nest. Yes, yes I think you are not being selfish by wanting to keep control of your life. Live it as "you" choose. As long as you are paying your own bills no one can criticize. Another thing too since when do the kids take care of you when you are old. I can tell you hundreds of stories from elderly folks who were abandoned by their children who want nothing to do with them. Of course there is "always" the exception to the rule. As soon as you become dependent on them they can't wait to put you in a home. I know this is harsh but I take care of elderly people and it brings tears to my eyes when I hear their stories. I could go on & on about various situations but I would fill a book. So just do what you think is right for you & your hubby & live a happy life. cia--da chef